The ex-factor

“Fall in love with someone who doesn’t make you think love is hard.”


The ex-factor, we all have it! 

There is always one ex that we can never fully get over and we don’t even know why. They seem to have such a mental hold on us, which is honestly mental torture in the worst form as you cannot escape your feelings and thoughts.

From my personal experience, I have huge detachment issues when it comes to any sort of friendship or relationship. If somebody starts to drift away from me, instead of doing the right thing and just letting them be or giving them space, I find it makes me react even more in the most clingy way! I literally can’t help myself.

So after being with my only true love and getting dumped, this was the most devastating experience for me. He was all I could think of, first thing when I woke up in the morning and the last thing whilst I was trying to get some sleep. 

It is quite sad how much one human being can have such an affect on your state of mind, mental health and your anxiety levels. Social media played a big part in terms of detachment issues too. Lucky enough, he was not on many social media platforms but I found I was constantly checking Whatsapp to see if he was online, wondering what he was up to and god forbid if he changed his display picture I even got a mini-panic attack. Believe me, I am so ashamed of this behavior but I really do let situations get the better of me.

I allowed this one individual to have such a powerful impact on my mental health, my emotions, my wellbeing and even my social life. 

So, how did I move on from the situation? 

Truth is, you never really get over somebody that you love and have an incredible amount of feelings for and an emotional attachment. I did, however, find my very own coping mechanisms which really did help my mind frame and allowed me to eventually move on from the situation and see it for what it really is.

  • Keep busy is my number one rule. I found surrounding myself with positive friends, activities and even going for a walk when I felt down was a huge help. 
  • It’s more than okay to cry! Don’t be ashamed or feel weak for crying. It is a natural emotional reaction and trust me, you feel so much better once you have had a little cry!
  • Do not agree to be ‘friends’ with your ex. You already have friends. You wanted them as a partner, not a friend. Besides it gets extremely messy, your feelings WILL get hurt and a friend does not make you feel sad or upset.
  • Always dress your best. Keeping yourself looking great and ‘at your best’ will help you also feel your best too. It’s okay to sit around and lounge around if you are feeling down but don’t do it too often. Get some fresh air, get dressed and keeping shining!
  • No contact rule. You may have read this a million times but it really does work. Delete their number from your phone and mute them on any social media (you don’t have to unfriend but be prepared to get your feelings hurt if you see something you don’t like!) Start off with 30 days, I had a little notebook and crossed off each day as it came and it get’s easier. Think about it, if your ex who dumped you wanted to contact you they would. Once the 30 days are over, you honestly feel very liberated, your expectations are lower and you feel empowered. Take the power back and don’t let anybody control you! If you have had no contact for 30 days, add another 30 days and then by the time you know it it would have been 2 months and hopefully your mind and heart will begin to move on – note how I didn’t say heal as it really isn’t that easy.
  • Write down the positive and negatives of the relationship. If the negatives outweigh the positives, you have definitely had a lucky escape! It really brings to life the reasons you broke up and be honest with yourself when writing this down. Be realistic and not in denial, this will help you in all situations in life.
  • Talk to people about how you are feeling, but don’t make it the topic of every conversation you have. During the first 30 days, he was literally all I would speak about to my friends. Think about it, they are there to help but they don’t want to just speak about one topic with you.There is more to you as a person than a break up – don’t let it rule your life!
  • Live your life for you. Don’t sit around posting sarcastic/subliminal social media status’s and certainly do not try and put suggestive pictures or try to put up things to make your ex jealous. They will see right through what you are doing and you will look childish and desperate. The element of mystery is surprisingly attractive!

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What did I learn from the situation? 

  • I have a lot of truly supportive friends who were there for me, even though I had excluded myself from them during the relationship.
  • I realized that I had let somebody take such a hold of me emotionally that I lost myself. Taking care of yourself is the number one rule, always.
  • Why am I so upset over somebody who has made me feel this way? Even if it wasn’t on purpose. Somebody who truly loves you will not make you feel this way, even if they break up with you, it doesn’t need to be messy!
  • It is okay to be single or alone. You get to enjoy your own company, learn about yourself, learn self-control and it is so empowering when you realize that somebody does not have a hold on you.
  • Some relationships are not forever and things do not always stay the same in life. Learn to take every situation as it comes and see the positive. Hey, you are not together but you still have your own life, your own plans and goals to achieve and you are responsible for your own happiness, nobody else. 
  • Lastly, I learned that they too stalk you on Whatsapp when they accidental missed call you. How the tables have turned!

“You were happy before, you will be happy after.”

This is probably the most heartfelt and emotional post that I have blogged so far and I truly hope that this post indeed helps somebody who is going through a similar situation or needs some guidance.  

Hoping you find the happiness you deserve!

 

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National Puppy Day – 23rd March 2017

National Puppy Day! 

O.M.G I love puppies! Today is ‘National Puppy Day’ and I thought I would use this opportunity to share the cuties puppies I have ever seen! Scroll through and remember to say ‘Awww!’ – Enjoy!
Let the cuteness begin…

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Quick mum – take a picture!

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First Kiss.

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Dressed and ready for bed…. *yawn*

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Magazine shoot *Vogue*

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Just hanging out in the ball pit.

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Feeling cute.

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Always one naughty sister.

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A puppy wrapped in a Tortilla – Awww (just don’t eat him!)

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Give me attention!

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Being cute is so tiring!


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6 steps to a #productive day.

Having a productive and positive day is extremely important to me, and I am sure it is important to you, too! I have put together a selection of my top tips/advice to share with you in the hope that you too will have productive and positive days!  


Have a good morning routine 

For instance, wake up when you actually set your alarm and don’t keep snoozing. Research shows that you wake up feeling better and more positive if you wake up straight away. Also, having a glass of water as soon as you wake up can kick-start your metabolism for the day and your body will absorb vitamins and iron better if you drink water before you eat your breakfast. I also plan my outfit for work the night before so that I don’t have to rush around in the morning trying to figure out what to wear!

Have a filling, uninterrupted and healthy breakfast

Having a filling, healthy breakfast will set you up for a great day in terms of giving you the energy to fulfill your daily tasks, focus and of course keep you nice and full so that you don’t snack unnecessarily and eat junk. I have a great recipe for a healthy breakfast – #OvernightOats I also like to not be interrupted or distracted when eating my breakfast. Have a break from social media/your phone whilst eating your breakfast so you can have your breakfast and think clearly about your goals for the day.

Set your goals and tasks for the day

Having a personal notepad and or post it notes really help me remember what it is I need to do and having a mini to-do list for each day helps me make sure I am staying on track and being as productive as possible. Crossing off tasks is extremely satisfying and I aim not to have more than one mini task left on my list to continue to the next day. These can be both work and personal tasks but I tend to keep my lists separate.

Avoid checking your phone/social media too much 

Did you know that the average person unlocks their phone at least 30 times a day! Which sounds insane. I find it really hard to concentrate on tasks if I have my mobile phone at hand when I need to be doing something that requires full concentration, particularly at work. I find keeping my phone in my work drawer or away in my handbag and only checking during breaks really helps. I also turn off Whatsapp/Social Media notifications if I do have my phone nearby to limit notifications popping up on the screen. Another thing that needs to stop when it comes to phones it having your phone in your hand or staring at your phone whilst having a real-life conversation with somebody!! Improve your social skills and focus on the real-life present moment not what is going on in your phone, you can always catch up later.

Be realistic with your time and expectations

Don’t put too much pressure on yourself. Only set goals and targets for what you know is realistic timewise and achievable. This counts for both work life and personal. Keep on top of your to-do list for your work but also don’t overbook yourself in your personal life in terms of meeting friends and don’t commit to plans you know you realistically won’t be able to keep.

Excercise

Whether it be going to the gym, or making sure you take a walk on your lunch break. Exercise is key to having a good day. I try to have at least a 10-15minute walk at lunch time, even if it is just walking to the shop, and then I walk home from work which takes around 45mins. Exercise helps to keep you fit, healthy and is known to improve both positivity and productivity.


I hope the above tips and advice help you to have many productive days! Frankie x

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#Veggie friendly places to eat in London!

Being a Veggie in London is hard.  

So many restaurants cater for the meat eaters or even the pescatarians but leave Veggie’s with nothin’ but risotto or a goats cheese burger! So I have put together 8 of my favorite restaurants to eat in and some recommendations too! Enjoy x


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Canvas Cafe, Brick Lane is a place I love! A social enterprise Cafe and creative venue. Vegan and Veggie friendly with a great menu, their breakfast on weekends is amazing too! Budget friendly too! The Canvas Cafe is also home to the Happiness Museum – win!         Check out more info on The Canvas Cafe here. 

 

 

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Padella, Borough Market has fantastic pasta dishes to suit Veggies! I personally love the Olives and the Goats Cheese and Butter Ravioli.#YUM! Check out their sample menu here.

 

 

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Borough Market, in general,is an amazing place with fantastic food options to cater for all dietary needs! From gluten free bread, to Halloumi Buns and Falafel wraps – Veggies are more than catered for here! Borough Market is open on Weekdays and Weekends so visit enjoy some lunch any day of the week!

 

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Wild Food Cafe, Covent Garden the name says it all! All good here is of a natural and ethical nature and I can assure you it is well worth a visit. I LOVE the Sweet Potato Slices, Spiced Apricot Hummus and ‘Swing into Spring’ smoothie. If you are after a health kick at a reasonable price then this one is for you! See their ‘WILD’ menu here.

 

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Hummus Bros, Holborn what can I say? Hummus heaven! My go to dish when I go to Hummus Bros is the Falafel, Salsa and Tzatziki wrap and the Baklava for dessert. Well worth a visit if you are in a hurry, and food will cost you under £10. Check out their dinner menu here.

 

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Honey & Co, Warren Street serve a fantastic Lentil Stew which is so warm and delicious with the most amazing flavors.Their roasted Aubergines are highly recommended too!  This Middle-Eastern restaurant has an array of dishes to cater for all dietary requirements and the budget is decent for a meal in Central London too. Check out what other dishes they have on offer here. P.S Try the breakfast too!

 

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b93vu22cyaajdeoThe Cheese Truck, Maltby Street, Southwark serves the most amazing grilled cheese sandwiches ever! The most delicious being Rosemary Goats Cheese, Honey Walnut and Rosemary Butter Grilled Toastie! My guilty pleasure indeed! See what else the truck is grillin’ here.


Hope you enjoy these recommendations! Feel free to comment with your own suggestions.

#VeggiePower 

 

 

 

 

20 Facts About Travelling That You Will Love!

“Adventure is worthwhile.” – Aesop


Travelling for me is the most worthwhile and educating experience I have ever known!

I encourage you all to travel as much as you can when you can, whether it is within your own country and visiting a new city to hopping on a plane or Eurostar and visiting a new city or country.

I have put together 20 facts about travelling that will hopefully encourage you to explore as much of the world as possible!

1. France is the most visited country in the world.

2. Travel has the ability to make you more creative.

3. Las Vegas has the most hotel rooms of any city in the world.

4. Around 300 people get married in Las Vegas every day.

5. Research shows that travel reduces stress, keeps your body healthy inside and out, and boosts brain health.

6. Canada is home to over 3million lakes!

7. Travelling encourages you to step outside of your comfort zone and learn about new cultures.

8. In 1930, female flight attendants had to weigh less than 115 pounds (52kg).

9. Adding salt and pepper to your food is considered highly offensive to chefs in Switzerland.

10. Less than 1% of the world’s population has ever visited Antarctica.

11. Travelling helps you learn who you are and help shape you as a person.

12. It is illegal to feed Pidgeon’s on the streets of San Francisco, California.

13. Tourism accounts for over 5% of the world’s economy.

14. 99% of Lybia is Desert.

15. You’ll realize that your home is more than just where you grew up.

16. You’ll realize how little you actually knew about the world.

17. The UK generates nearly 5 million visitors to the USA per year!

18. City with the most Rolls Royce’s: Hong Kong.

19. Every day about 3,000 Euro are thrown into the Trevi Fountain in Rome and collected at night to be given to a charity.

20. You have the opportunity to educate yourself and learn a new language!

 


“The world is a book, and those who do not travel read only one page.” – Saint Augustine

Explore.Dream.Discover  


 

 

 

 

5minute Avocado DIY Face Mask

Left-over Avocado? Why not make a face mask using just 3 ingredients?

After seeing some leftover ripe Avocados in my fruit bowl I decided to whip up a quick 5-minute face mask. After all, it is the weekend and time to detox.

Literally taking minutes to make I used the following:

Ingredients:

  1. 1 ripe Avocado
  2. 2 Tablespoons of Honey
  3. 22g of raw oats

Method:

  1. Put all in ingredients in a blender until smooth (or like me, you can put all together in a jug and mash together)
  2. Generously spread over face and leave for 15-20 minutes or until it starts to dry up
  3. Wash off with warm water, you will love the results! Literally, cannot stop stroking my face because it is so soft!

Enjoy your smooth skin – you can thank me later! x

Like oats? Check out my breakfast recipe for Overnight Oats.


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#Oreos

OREO’s – do you twist or dunk?

9 insanely delicious things to do with your Oreos…

1.Dunk them in milk – obviously!

2.Cholocate Cupcakes topped with Oreos (see video below! #Delicious)

3.Whip up an Oreo Milkshake – Recipe 

 4.Oreo Donuts #NomNomNoM – Recipe 

5.Minty Fresh Oreo Ice Cream #Lovestruck – Recipe    

6.Love Oreos AND Cheesecake? Why not make an Oreo cheesecake? Recipe 

7.Eat them for breakfast – like cereal #LicksLips 

8.Pop some Oreo popcorn Check out the recipe!

9.Settle down with an Oreo hot chocolate #Mmm How to make it…

You can find lots more exciting recipes on the Oreo Website #Yum!

  Check out Tanya Burr’s video on Baking Oreo Cupcakes!

Delicious!


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20 cool activities to do in #London this weekend!


#LONDON – The City of Dreams. The Big Smoke.

#London has got to be the coolest city to be in for the weekend!

There are so many cafès, markets to shop around, parks to visit, a Hogwarts Express to catch….

I have constructed a list of twenty cool activities to do in #London on a reasonable budget which I think you will enjoy.


 

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Visit a museum: Most museums in London are free, although certain exhibitions you have to pay for. I recommend the Imperial War Museum  Museum of London &  Natural History Museum – enjoy as many free exhibitions as you can!

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Go on a tourist attraction: London Eye, London Dungeon, Madame Tussauds, London Duck Tours – go on, be a tourist for the day!


Visit a market: There are so many markets in London to visit, grab a bite to eat, have a coffee, find some unique items that only you will own! The list is endless.My favourite markets are Spitalfields Market, near Liverpool Street (food, antiques, art and clothes) & Borough Market, near London Bridge (food, fresh produce, cakes, olives etc)


Wander around one of London’s beautiful parks!  There are so many beautiful parks in London just waiting to be explored. The biggest park close to central London is St. James Park – just opposite Buckingham Palace. I also suggest checking out Hyde Park, Greenwich Park or Richmond Park (you might even see some Deer roaming around here!)


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Get the Hogwarts Express: sadly, not literally! At Kings Cross Station, they have a very cool photo opportunity for you to take on the 9 and 3/4 platform! Check it out here!


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Southbank is one of the coolest places to be! Lots of restaurants, street performers, market stalls and even a skateboard ramp – what is there not to love? Check it out here.

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Love to bowl? Bloomsbury Bowling Lanes has to be one of the coolest venues to go bowling! With regular themed Hip Hop nights plus karaoke rooms you are bound to have a great night! 

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Have a delicious breakfast at The Breakfast Club- various locations – London Bridge is my fave! Note: You will need to book in advance if you want to avoid waiting in line.

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Go Shopping; two very famous shopping areas in London are Oxford Street and Covent Garden. Both of these areas serve a variety of luxury and high street brands – if you are after visiting department stores such as House of Fraser or Selfridges, then I suggest Oxford Street. Both areas have great food options too!

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#Theatreland London is also known as Theatreland! There are countless theatres that are showing a huge variety of performances, at least one of them is bound to take your interest. A favourite show of mine is The Lion King at The Lyceum Theatre in Covent Garden. Lots of restaurants also do ‘pre-theatre’ dinners, so look out for some great deals.

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Feeling Generous?  There are lots of exciting street performers in both the Covent Garden and Southbank areas. If you are feeling generous after watching their performance, why not donate £1? There are also lots of people dressed as interesting characters that you can donate to get your picture taken with as a souvenir of visiting London.


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See the stars at The Royal Observatory in Greenwich. The have plenty of experiences, photography exhibitions, and opportunities to view the stars, explore and discover planets. Perfect for astronomy lovers!

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Alexandra Palace is a wonderful old palace and public venue which has acres of land to explore, a golf course, boating lake, indoor ice rink and event a farmers market. Alexandra Palace is in the North of London but easily accessible.

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Ride the Thames on a Thames Clipper! See the sight’s of London on one of the Thames Clipper River Cruises and ride the waves of the choppy Thames!

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Like being in the sky? Ride the Emirates Airline Cable Cars at the 02 Arena. Enjoy panoramic views of London – and there is no extra charge for beautiful nighttime rides!



Love Pasta? Have Lunch at Padella in Borough Market – there are often lines outside which do move quite quickly, however, this was voted #WorthTheWait 2016! The food is delicious!


Like jokes? If you are into your comedy then The Comedy Store is the place for you. With regular Stand Up shows on Fridays and Saturdays and plenty of special events you are guaranteed to have a great time.

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Visit Trafalgar Square and admire the wonderful fountains, architecture or get involved in special events that often take place in this public square. Look at what the square has to offer here.

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Speakers Corner If you are feeling sassy and want to exercise your free speech visit Speakers Corner at Hyde Park – this public space is used as a positive platform to exercise freedom of speech – but this is not an opportunity to offend anybody! Keep it positive!


Hopefully, you get to enjoy at least one of these activities to do in #London this weekend!

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You have as many hours in the day as Beyonce! 

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You have as many hours in the day as Beyonce! 

Love her or hate her – Beyonce is an inspiration to many. Not only is Beyonce super talented, but she is a smart business woman who has built an incredible empire and is hugely successful.

But why can’t this be you? As the title says, we have as many hours in our day as Beyonce. Ok, so being a multi-million-pound worth singer might be slightly unreachable (particularly if you cannot sing!) but her approach, attitude and business mind has helped make her successful.

Beyonce is a shining example that we can achieve what we set our minds to, no matter our background or upbringing!

The point is, if you have a goal or target you want to achieve – utilize your time wisely and do not stop until you have what you want! You can be anything you want to be – the sky really is our limit.

It is so easy to get distracted from the likes of social media, however set the non-necessities aside until you have done what you need to.

Here are my top five tips for productivity:

10 tips for productivity.

Setting a goal or target for yourself really is the way forward to making sure we are always striving to be the best version of ourselves and always thinking how we can develop and grow during our journey of life!

Hopefully, his blog was of use to you – it sure helped me even writing it to get back on track with my monthly goals!

Check out my article  6 steps to a #productive day. for more motivation and productivity advice!